This article looks at the emotional effects of infertility and some strategies for coping
Emotion = energy in motion. Each emotion has a frequency and a wavelength.
This is why dogs can often sense your fear and growl at you or can sense your sadness and nuzzle you to make you feel better.
Like anything that emits a frequency, emotions require energy.
That valuable energy is coming from your energy reserves. Some unpleasant emotions (sadness, anger and rage) can actually help us grow and teach us a lot as long as we know how to harness them.
Let’s look at some common negative emotions in turn:
Sadness can be a therapeutic emotion if we allow ourselves to express it. Crying can be very cleansing; it removes old painful emotions and memories.
Here is what Clarissa Pinkola – Estes wrote about tears and crying in her beautiful book “Women who run with the wolves”:
“Tears are rivers that take you somewhere. Weeping creates a river around the boat that carries your soul-life. Tears lift your boat off the rocks, off dry ground, carrying it downriver to someplace new, someplace better.”
Anger and rage are very powerful emotions. They can also be very cleansing, but in a different way (like a thunder and lightning storm) if released in a productive way.
Guilt is an emotion with little to offer – guilt keeps taking and gives nothing back. Unresolved guilt can attack our own being from the inside and literally eat away at us.
The first step towards releasing an emotion is to become aware of it. Sometimes we carry emotional effects of infertility around with us for so long that we forget what it really feels like to be free of them.
Fears and emotional effects of infertility can pose a mental or physical block to pregnancy and as such you need to become aware of them.
To see how quickly thoughts can influence your body do the following exercise:
If you visualized this and you are not a professional skydiver it’s most likely that your palms went sweaty or your heart started racing. Even though this was not real, your brain interpreted your thoughts and visions as real. Fears and thoughts and beliefs from a long time ago have the same effect on our conscious and subconscious mind and the body.
So there is a lot to be said about the things we read, saw, heard as we were growing up. We may have forgotten about them but our subconscious mind hasn’t.
There are many effective methods for releasing old negative emotions which are standing in our way of living a full and a happy life. Good emotional cleansers are:
– Breathing Exercises
– Creative expression (dance, painting, writing)
– Heart to heart talk with your best friend
Fears and negative emotional effects of infertility can can be overwhelming for couples. Unfortunately those same emotions can also add to the infertility problem and pose a mental or physical block to pregnancy I hope this article introduced some ideas for coping with common emotional effects of infertility.
Iva Keene is co-founder, creator and award-winning author of the NFP Program and director of Natural-Fertility-Prescription.com. She holds a Bachelor Degree in Health Science in Naturopathy and a Master Degree in Reproductive Medicine. She has been a qualified and internationally accredited Naturopathic Physician for over 15 years. Since founding NFP in 2008, Iva’s articles, videos, guides, and reports have reached over 1.3 million people. Iva has dedicated her professional life to supporting couples on their path to parenthood with scientifically grounded information, protocols, and coaching around preconception care, natural infertility treatments, and integrative reproductive health.